Free self-assessments

Find the reflection that fits your situation.

Each assessment takes a few minutes and gives you a private summary right away. There's no gate on the value here — you'll see your result immediately, and can choose to receive a fuller breakdown by email.

Sacred Flame6 min

Sacred Flame Readiness Assessment

A fit-and-readiness reflection for the Sacred Flame approach to transforming unwanted sexual patterns.

IndividualBegin
For Loved Ones6 min

Boundary Clarity Assessment

Identify where your boundaries may be weak, inconsistent, punitive, or unclear — and where clearer limits may help most.

Family & PartnersBegin
For Loved Ones7 min

Caregiver / Partner Burnout Assessment

Check in on your own exhaustion, preoccupation, resentment, sleep, identity, self-care, emotional load, and support balance.

Family & PartnersBegin
For Loved Ones6 min

Communication Under Stress Assessment

See how your communication holds up under stress across avoidance, escalation, interrogation, defensiveness, shutdown, and constructive dialogue.

Family & PartnersBegin
For Loved Ones6 min

Family Support Readiness Assessment

For family members: gauge how ready and resourced you are to support a loved one without monitoring, rescuing, or losing yourself.

Family & SupportBegin
For Loved Ones6 min

Partner Impact Assessment

For spouses and partners: reflect on how a loved one's sexual behavior has affected trust, safety, communication, intimacy, and more.

Spouse & PartnerBegin
For Loved Ones6 min

Enabling vs. Supporting Assessment

Distinguish compassionate support from patterns that may unintentionally shield a loved one from responsibility or consequences.

Family & SupportBegin
For Loved Ones7 min

Family System Impact Assessment

Reflect on how a loved one's behavior ripples through parenting, finances, routines, emotional climate, values, roles, trust, and connection.

Family & SupportBegin
For Loved Ones7 min

Reconciliation Readiness Assessment

Distinguish genuine readiness for reconciliation from an understandable wish for relief, peace, or a quick return to normal.

Spouse, Partner & FamilyBegin
For You4 min

TENET Transformation Readiness Assessment

A faith-informed readiness and consultation-preparation reflection across awareness, readiness, identity, support, and faith & values.

IndividualBegin
For Loved Ones6 min

Trust Repair Assessment

Reflect on whether the behaviors trust repair actually requires — honesty, accountability, reliability, responsiveness, and repair — appear to be in place.

Spouse & PartnerBegin
For You7 min

Recovery Environment Assessment

Evaluate how much your home and relationship environment supports recovery — structure, privacy, accountability, routines, technology, connection, triggers, and culture.

Individual & FamilyBegin

This is a supportive, educational self-reflection tool — not a diagnosis, a validated psychological test, or medical advice. It may help you notice patterns and next steps, and is meant to complement appropriate professional care.

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